A Closeted Goth Girl Trying to Make it in the Professional World

Tuesday, January 17, 2017

Outfit Fail: Wardrobe Malfunctions

I have always enjoyed clothing, shoes, makeup, and accessories and I spend a lot of my spare time putting together outfits to express my personal style. Many people do not like to fuss with clothing or makeup as they find it to be a waste of time, but I think it is fun! Despite my level of planning, sometimes my clothes conspire to thwart me in my attempts to look half decent before I leave the house......
Today's outfit was put together to go out for a nice dinner with friends. I was excited to be wearing my new Marc By Marc Jacobs skirt that I got for a good deal at an outlet store. I paired it with a neat blazer that I found that has cute little chiffon tails. The skirt had fit me very well in the store when I tried it on; however, when I was actually walking around it it, I discovered it was slightly too big for my waist and it kept falling down a bit and exposing some skin in the midsection area which was NOT my intent for a fall outfit with a blazer over top. Thankfully we were sitting most of the time so the time I spent awkwardly pulling my skirt up every 2 seconds was minimal. On top of this, the hook and eye closure on my blazer randomly detached itself on one side during the course of the evening. ARGH!!! I tried so hard to look nice but I ended up a hot mess. Thankfully, I know how to hand sew and it was not difficult to repair the blazer and move a button a couple of inches on the skirt. 

THE EQUIPMENT

MAC Berry Black Friday, Necklace and Cuff: Le Chateau.

THE ILL-FITTING OUTFIT


Blazer: Greylin
Top, Necklace, and Cuff: Le Chateau
Skirt: Marc By Marc Jacobs
Boots: Guess

Have you ever had a wardrobe malfunction?

Tuesday, January 10, 2017

For Your Health (& An Outfit)

Last week, I read all of The Curious Professor Z's Bat Fit 2017 posts. I always find it interesting to read about other people's ideas about health and fitness. In today's world we are constantly bombarded with information about health and fitness and messages about how our bodies "should" look. Ultimately, we must all decide for ourselves how we are going to manage and prioritize our health, fitness, and appearance and there is no one right way to do this that works for everyone. Today, I am going to share some of my perspectives on health and stuff. 


ON EXERCISE

In my opinion, exercise is VERY important. Unfortunately, I am a low-energy, introverted, non-athletically inclined person who HATES EXERCISE. The reason I force myself to exercise is SCIENCE. I work in health care, so I see people doing all kinds of crazy things to try to improve their health and ward off disease such as strange diets, expensive supplements, and unproven treatments and therapies. Do you know the ONE thing that is SCIENTIFICALLY proven to help prevent and improve a WIDE range of health problems? It is EXERCISING 30 minutes per day. Therefore, I make myself run on the treadmill or outside for half an hour and lift weights/do stuff on an exercise ball for half an hour 3 to 5 times per week. If I am feeling lazy, I go for a walk. It is important to find a way to exercise that works for you and your schedule. I used to go to the gym and I hated it; it was expensive, I didn't like working out with other people, I had to waste money on gym clothing to look presentable, and it took a lot of time to drive myself there. Now, I work out in my basement. I purchased a treadmill, some free weights, an exercise ball, and a weight bench. These can often be found used for the cost of  a 1 year gym membership and can be used for many years without having to keep paying membership fees. Also, I don't need to purchase any workout wear as I am in my own house and there are NO EXCUSES for not exercising as the gym is RIGHT THERE. There are endless options for getting exercise so everyone can find what works for them. Also, have you ever heard the term "use it or lose it"? I have watched many people's health and mobility deteriorate over the years due to inactivity; my exercise goal is to sustain my level of exercise over the long term to maintain my health.

ON WEIGHT AND APPEARANCE

Another reason why I exercise is to maintain my weight. Weight is a touchy subject for many people (especially women) and it is not hard to see why; we are constantly bombarded by images of body types that are not realistic for 90% of the population. Also, most of the images we see are photoshopped so all we see is tall, thin, women with perfect skin, no stretch marks, no wrinkles, no cellulite, etc. I think it is important to accept the fact that 90% of us are NEVER going to look like the women in the magazines and realize that there are many aspects of our appearance that we cannot control; we are all predisposed to a certain body type and you're either born with features that are whatever society says is conventionally attractive or you're not. Also, we are all going to age and we may give birth or have medical treatments that affect how our bodies look. When I was younger, I used to be a lot thinner but I remember feeling self conscious about my weight and sundry other aspects of my appearance. These days, I have decided that it is a waste of time and energy to have "body issues" and to focus on my health instead. I am not perfect looking and I am fine with that, I try to dress nicely and present myself in such a way that makes me feel good.  At my job, I see a lot of people of all different ages dealing with health problems that have a huge negative impact on their lives. I have decided to convince myself that worrying about how fat I look in a bikini is a first world problem and that I should be thankful for the fact that aside from a couple of minor things, I am healthy and can live my life unimpeded by health issues. Do I weigh myself? Yes I do. At this point in my life, I gain weight easily if I eat too much and do not exercise so keeping track of my weight helps me to know if I should be more careful about eating habits or exercising.  I have found it is helpful to have reasonable, sustainable, weight goals. Right now, I am 5'8 and 160 lbs and that is where I try to stay. I am not thin but my weight is also not to the point where it negatively affects my health; I have enough time to exercise to keep myself at this weight and I can still eat what I want within reason. Would I look better or more conventionally attractive if I decided to lose 30 lbs? Yes. However, I have decided that it is not my job or my priority to be conventionally attractive and I am not going to feel bad about myself for not conforming to societal ideals. It is not worth it to me to count every calorie I eat or exercise 7 days a week to maintain myself at that level. There is nothing wrong with prioritizing your weight or appearance if that is what works for you, but I find that it does not work for me and I don't think a person should HAVE to look a certain way or conform to beauty standards if they don't want to. 

ON FOOD

One of the best things I did in the last several years was learn to cook and to be organized about meal planning. I used to eat many processed foods that came out of a box which is not good for you. I also learned a lot of vegetarian recipes; I have always loved vegetables but wasn't great at cooking them so this has been a good thing for me. I used to HATE cooking as well, but now I don't mind it. Another thing that I think is important about food is NOT restricting yourself too much. I LOVE to eat and I would be miserable if I was constantly counting calories or telling myself I can't have this or that. I find that it works for me to make healthy and nutritious meals most of the time while also allowing myself to have some chips or go out to eat when I feel like it. This is also why I weigh myself, it lets me know when I need to reign it in a little so I just adjust as I go along. For example, if I have been on holidays and was eating too much, then I just clean it up a bit when I get home and exercise a bit more. Another lesson that I have learned is that your weight doesn't necessarily correlate with health; when I was at my skinniest I ate chips, slurpees, and fast food all the time because I was a teenager and my metabolism was high so I could get away with it. Would I eat like that now? NO WAY. 

ON MENTAL HEALTH

I think we often forget that mental health is very important as well. We must all remember to take care of ourselves in this way. Right now, I am focusing on developing constructive ways to manage stress. 

In summary, health is very important and we must all try to get to a point where we feel good about ourselves. Health is a very personal thing and we all need to find out what works for us in our lives. 

And now, an outfit.

THE EQUIPMENT

MAC Cremesheen Glass in Jet Boy,  Necklace: The Rogue and the Wolf, Earrings: made by me, Ring: was my mother's grandmother's. 

THE OUTFIT



Sweater: Simon's
Skirt: Zara
Tights: H & M

SHOES

Steve Madden Wantaghh (???)

What are your thoughts about health and fitness? 

Thursday, January 5, 2017

New Year

 HAPPY NEW YEAR!!

Today's outfit is actually from this year's New Year! I have probably mentioned this before, but my posts are not necessarily contemporaneous, I often have stuff sitting around on my computer for up to a year before I post it. I had a decent holiday season this year, my days off from work happened to align with the holidays so I went to visit my family AND got to go out on New Year's Eve!

For my outfit this year, I decided to go for head to toe PVC. Please note that my corset is not fully done up in the photos; it is a heavy-duty steel-boned corset that is made to my measurements and I can REALLY cinch my waist with it. When I go out wearing one, I usually lace it up tight but not as far as it will go so I can actually sit down in the car/taxi on my way out. Then, when I get to my destination and it has "warmed up" a bit, I will cinch it ALL THE WAY. I had a long mermaid skirt with a train from Artifice Clothing in my closet that hadn't made it out yet; the train makes it a bit difficult to wear in a crowded club. I just held onto it with my clutch hand the whole night; I think I will sew a small hook on my sleeve and an eye on the train of the skirt so I don't have to hold on to it next time. I used another skirt from Artifice Clothing as a sort of bustle over the long skirt; I am glad I found another use for it as I wore it once when I bought it and it was WAY too short for me.

THE EQUIPMENT

Clutch: Alexander Wang, Too Faced Melted Matte Lipstick in Evil Twin, Earrings: Free People, Hair Flowers: Made by my friend, Sugarpill Tiara, Sweet Pea and Fay Strangely Wearable Blush in Chromagraphic.

THE OUTFIT


Shrug: Lip Service
Corset: Sweet Carousel Corsetry
Skirts: Artifice Clothing

SHOES

Novice by Jeffrey Campbell
My New Year's resolution this year is to develop a Positive Mental Attitude (PMA). 

I may have posted this on here before but I'm going to post it again:


The sooner I wrap my mind around the positive attitude thing, the better!

Did you make any resolutions this year?

Monday, December 19, 2016

The Side-Eye Scarf Cape

Hello thar......I hope everyone is enjoying "the most wonderful time of the year". Last fall, I acquired a blanket scarf because I was highly attracted to the colour....unfortunately, I wasn't really sure how to style it. Being that I am always late to the party and not up with the times, I had only accessorized with smaller scarves in the past.  The first thing I thought to do with it was to use it as a poncho/cape sort of thing but I couldn't get it to stay in place......then I remembered a brooch that I hadn't figured out how to wear yet which did the trick! I was inspired to try adding brooches to my accessories wardrobe by Coffin Kitsch; I have always enjoyed how she uses pins and brooches in her outfits. 
As far as the side-eye factor goes, this outfit ranks pretty high. It seems that people did not appreciate my cape idea (or maybe it was the lipstick?) Good thing I have no shame. I have since determined that it looks chic as f*** to wear a blanket scarf with an open-front coat and thus I am on the hunt for such a coat. Up here in Canada it is too cold for most of the winter to wear such a thing but in spring and fall it should do nicely. 

THE EQUIPMENT

Earrings: Catherinette Rings, Brooch: Zara, MAC Coygirl Blush and Kling It On lipstick.
THE OUTFIT


Brooch and Scarf and Skirt: Zara
Boots: Steve Madden

Hope everyone has a great day! I am off to the kitchen to bake apple pies for Xmas.

How would you style a blanket scarf?

Wednesday, December 14, 2016

Slipknot Concert

Last fall, I heard that Slipknot would be coming to town........to be quite honest with you, I was surprised that they were still around. I have vague memories of listening to their CD's whilst angrily ripping holes in my tights or something when I was in high school. A friend of mine had an extra ticket as her boyfriend was too embarrassed to be seen at a Slipknot concert so I decided, what the hell, let's go and relive my angry teenager days. My husband was too embarrassed to go as well; I, however, have no shame.
Getting old is certainly a weird process. If I would have gone to one of their shows 15 years ago I would have been crowd surfing through the mosh pit. These days I'm sitting in the stands and hoping the concert doesn't end too late as I have to get up for work at 5:30 am the next day.  Oh, how times have changed.

THE EQUIPMENT

MAC Coygirl Blush, Kat Von D Foiled Love Lipstick in Oh My Goth, UD Naked Smoky palette, Earrings: H&M.

THE OUTFIT


Belt: found in the depths of my closet
Top: Guess
Skirt: It is ugly, I think I will get rid of it.
Cuff: My husband made it from an old belt like a hundred years ago
Boots: Brown's Shoes

I don't really like how my outfit turned out. I had some kind of faux leather theme in mind, there is just too much faux leather going on. I need to mix it up next time.

THE CONCERT



I was surprised to hear that they actually sounded pretty good live after all these years. They had a decent stage show and pyrotechnics and stuff so I was fairly amused. I do wish I would have seen them when I was still in high school, this concert made me feel OLD. I had no idea that people still listened to Slipknot anymore. In summary, it got me out of the house in something other than work clothes for once and there was fire and sh*t but I left pondering my own mortality as I was reminded of my rapidly advancing age.

Interesting fact courtesy of The Mutant Stomp Friends: One can purchase Slipknot t-shirts at Urban Outfitters these days. Hmm. I think they are trying to cash in on the nostalgia thing. I don't know why but in the past couple of years I have been feeling quite nostalgic. Maybe it's because you truly start feeling old when you enter your 30's.....or maybe it's just when you start to realize how f***ed up the world truly is.......maybe it's because it's really freakin' weird to see the young people wearing stuff that you already wore back in the day.......maybe I'm just losing my mind, who knows.



Did you know Slipknot was still around? Been to any good concerts lately?

Monday, November 28, 2016

Cyber Monday

As per usual, I shall post a cyber goth outfit for Cyber Monday. I do not care that cyber goth has not been cool since approximately 2002, I still have a huge soft spot for it. I wore this outfit to go see a Juno Reactor DJ set which I thoroughly enjoyed.

THE EQUIPMENT

MAC Lip Pencil in Cyber World, MAC Lipstick in Cyber, Sugarpill Tiara, Hair flowers made by my friend, Necklace by Dominic Elvin Designs.
THE OUTFIT
(I look really crabby but I'm not, it's just lack of sleep/resting b*tch face)


Theca Dress: Zoetica Ebb
Tights that have a seam down the front that you can see through my dress which I find rather irritating: H & M
Boots: Demonia

The dress looks way cooler in person, the camera flash makes it look like it is not black BUT IT IS. I didn't have much time to get dressed for this and I don't feel I did the dress justice....I will have to try to make a better outfit for it next time.
Kudos to the lady who designed this dress. Despite the fact that it is VERY form-fitting, it is cut in such a way that it is still somewhat flattering if you are not particularly svelte which is NOT always the case with very tight things.

Did you do any online shopping today?

Friday, November 25, 2016

Black Friday

Ah, 'tis Black Friday, the dreaded day when people camp outside of stores to get cheap TV's or something. Upon this day, I would like to take a moment to extol the virtues of BLACK. In terms of clothing and style, you can't go wrong with black in my opinion. I get the most use out of my all-black clothing because it never really goes out of style and you can wear it in so many different ways. If you get a black pair of shoes or boots, you can wear them with almost anything. While we all have colours that look good on us and colours that wash us out, black looks good on pretty much everyone. You can look goth-y, classy, trendy, or conservative in black. In summary, black is the sh*t.

Today's outfit was worn to a club night. It is an outfit that gets a lot of wear because it is a great foundation for accessorizing. When you start with an all black ensemble, you can wear different jewellery, makeup, and shoes and it instantly becomes something new every time you wear it! For this particular evening, I went with a peacock theme. I painted my nails in a "skittles" manicure with blues, teals, and gold. I also did some blue, teal, and gold eye makeup which was fairly elaborate but I couldn't photograph it for the life of me. I wore Kat Von D Poe lipstick (which is fantastic) with MAC No Interruptions overtop. I had a peacock feather hair clip and earrings to complete the look. 

THE EQUIPMENT

A whole lot of makeup, some of it made by me.
THE OUTFIT

Hair Clip: Made by me
Earrings: Made by my friend
Necklace; From an alternative craft fair
Dress: Polymorphe
Corset: Ooh La Latex
Armwarmers: Nimues Latex
Shoes: Jeffrey Campbell

Are you going shopping today? Find any good deals?